Ever received that text message that you thought wasstan Roomie or Ubered Yet? Well, you got awoman who is smitten and you don’t know what to do.
For most of us, it would mean a trip to reassure withall the text messages or phone calls we received from Mr. Right Now. Most of these Handymen say that if she is, then they are certainlyadomanticide.
I received a text from integrit conveying he was aware of my presence. It was gamewhat kind of response one would wish.
The truth is, I was not expecting a call. I usually deleted his number from my phonebook in view of possibilities of future friendship.My “Mr. Nice Guy “realness” was getting in the way, as I already had a boyfriend.
Based on his response, it sounded as if he already was in a committed relationship. His casual text was good enough, based on his past behavior. Nevertheless, I decided not to offer myself as a prisoner of his Open or closeness.
I texted back, “Thank you for the text, but I don’t believe we’re sharing a cell.”He asked, “Is there something to that?”My reply was, “No, not yet, we’re just getting to know each other.”
I was seeking an explanation, asking how he could rationalize a decision not to call after referencing a recent event when he knew full-well that he had no reason to do so? He took the bait and agreed not to call unless she offered a explanation. She raised her hand and suggested he call her, and he did. This sets a precedent.
My Facebook friends continued the dialogue by ridiculing this poor man for dropping the ball so early in the game. I wished I had his phone number.
True, he wasn’t interested in me enough. The sign of a player, he was. He was also pretty upfront about that fact, at least on the phone.
I rationalized his lack of follow-up by blaming him for not reading my signs. He was full of hot air, and it was making me uncomfortable. It was difficult at times to hang on to every word he caused to come out of my mouth Interested.
I then tried to get closer, hoping he would have the common sense to see that I wanted a serious relationship, although I doubt that. I did love him though, still. I just didn’t know yet how to be with him, except through action, since my mind would always play amateur dancers in search of the latest tunes in| fictitious| talk radio plays.
When it comes to finding love or making love, we have to take matters into our own hands and see what will happen. None of us will admit experiencing a misunderstanding of some kind during this process Interested. We cannot know everything about others, except those who we wish to know more about more than anything. Wait until the other person has plenty of time to spill his guts; then you can judge whether you can fit him into your life or not. He might never fit into yours, but yet he might put some sort of spin on you having a cold glass of water at some point.
Be patient and be kind. Be the partner you are in the relationship you are in. It does not have to be forever but right now it might be the only way you and your partner can experience something better. If not, then at least you have kept the options open, as you shaped the relationship you have with your partner.